We all have to deal with grief or sadness in our lives, though hopefully not often. In my own life I was shocked this week by news that a friend from high school had killed himself and his wife, leaving in his wake the now-shattered life of their 16-year-old daughter.
Emotionally healthy people reel with shock when confronted with such horror. On the surface there was nothing in Alans life to hint at such extremes, although he was professionally unsuccessful. Having never found a comfortable niche for his life, suicide might not have been completely shocking, but taking the life of his wife certainly was. By all accounts the marriage was working, including the accounts of his mother-in-law who is usually among the first to know when a marriage is in trouble. And the man was not without friends. He was a volunteer in the Fort Worth Civic Orchestra, and was well known among his old band compadres from Paschal High School.
Under such circumstances it is a mistake for a rational person to try to make sense of what happened. A person so caught up in his own self-misery to be so utterly unaware, or uncaring, of the impending misery of his loved ones a misery it is entirely within his power to avoid cannot be explained in sane or rational terms.
At times this knowledge is insufficient for coping. In Five Element Theory, grief and sadness are associated with the metal element, and the lungs. Chi kung exercises aimed at replacing these negative emotions with courage and righteousness will have the concomitant benefit of improving your lung health as well. You can accomplish this by meditating and turning your attention to your lungs, or by breathing clean, white chi your lungs and breathing out cloudy, dirty chi. We practice suitable such exercises in the Six Healing Sounds class.